Pursuing Jesus In The Pursuit Of Love
From my earliest memories, I have always heard the words, “I love you.” I heard this from my parents, siblings, and friends.
Before writing this blog post, I asked several women in my life for input and wisdom. I received the most amazing, genuine responses and truly enjoyed getting to read all they had to share. A few questions that stuck out to me are the ones I will be answering below. Obviously it’s Valentine’s Day and I could have taken this blog post in many different ways. But, I felt led to answer these questions since I believe many people (including myself) are seeking to know more and want answers.
So, without further ado!
How does God define love?
God defines and demonstrates love in many ways throughout the Bible. From His simple healing touch to dying on the cross for us, we see numerous examples of God’s love throughout the pages in the Bible.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
How do I find a significant other that is passionate about Jesus?
The three major things that I tell someone when they ask me this question are prayer, placement, and personality. Now, you’re probably thinking, “What does she even mean by this?” and that’s so okay. Just hear me out. We should be praying for our future spouse. It’s as easy as that. I believe that when we truly pray for things, the Lord will fulfill that area of our life according to His will.
Placement is extremely vital in finding someone who is passionate about Jesus. If you are seeking the Lord, first and foremost, then seeking a strong Christian community is so important. If you have the desire to be in a relationship with someone who is passionate about the Lord, then place yourself in particular moments and places where God can highlight someone. Logic says that you are more likely to meet a Christian at your Church or in a Bible study than at a club. So, be intentional with where you place yourself.
Finally, this is my favorite and is what should come natural for most, be who God has created you to be and don’t worry about what others may think of you. Genuineness is so admirable in the world we live in today. This person you’re praying for God to bring to you will be the one you spend the rest of your life with. You just have to be YOU!
How do I know if a relationship is worth pursuing?
They will have strong Christ-like qualities which are foundational to the future of not only that relationship but also your relationship with Jesus.
You will feel comfortable with that person and not be afraid to be yourself with them.
They will bring you closer to the Lord and not farther away from Him and you will have peace that is overwhelming.
They are an answer to your prayers.
Will a significant other complete me?
No, God did not design relationships (whether dating or marriage) to fulfill you completely. In a relationship, it is easy to allow your significant other to fill the void that only Jesus can fulfill. Since only Jesus can fill that void, you will never be truly happy in a relationship until you understand and realize that Jesus is ENOUGH. Jesus will meet all of your needs and despite what our world tells us, God is more than enough.
My prayer is that these thoughts will bring you a new perspective and cause you to want to pursue your relationship with Jesus above any other. No matter where you are in this season of life, single or not, God wants you to know that He is enough, He has a plan for you, and He loves you.
